Don't take this the wrong way, but WHAT!!!!! Let me ask you, are you willing to live in a Open Marriage? You need to man up and let her know what you will not accept, and what the consequence is if done. She doesn't want you to touch her but you give her a massage, dude, man up.
Let her know you saw the texts, tell her you will not be in a open marriage, tell her you will not share your marital bed with a cheater. Do not give her back massages or mixed messages. Tell her what she will need to do to get back in the M, and stick with it. I'm gonna go grab a quote from Sandi2 on being a lighthouse. Tell her all of this with confidence, stay strong and let her know you mean it..
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
