I agree with SadHub. Youve caused more unnecessary harm, but nothing is FINAL. When you get a bruise, does it always stay bruised? The key is to learn from it.
Originally Posted By: KyleR
I told her that we could have a bright and happy future if we just fight for it, I said all marriages have ups and downs and we can't just bolt at the first hurdle.
Think about how your words treat her feelings.
She says "I feel hurt and sad and tired and I want to leave." You say "It's normal. We can do better."
You are essentially telling her that you dont care about her feelings. That her feelings arent important to you.
How can you better validate? EVen if you dont agree with her feelings, they are hers, and hers alone. And that means that they are correct and valid.
