Out of In house S- Start of two homes (10)

[vise82]

Hey,

Things were going good.

I asked W to confirm that we were doing extra coverage for looking after the kids on our days to have them.

W agrees and pushes me by asking if I can actually do it. I reply yes. Then she says dont give me that tone. Well I replied I was annoyed that you would even ask that. YOu are questioning my parenting ability. Need to get batter at validating.

So that led to her saying actually you have been snarky with stuff like bringing over a lawn mower and picking up the kids.
I said sorry it seems like that.

Then she goes into tomorrow saying that i will be bringing the trailer to her house as she has a lot of garbage to get rid of.

I listened then said no I dont feel comfortable doing that.

W got mad. W spewed. She said I was ruining a good separation, that I was being un co operative, that her parents gave me money so I should help W out. She asked me as a favor to do it. I still said no, the S agreement I signed was you asking for a complete separation of our lives, I have not interest going to your house or helping you at your house.

I had to leave the house. she wouldn't let it go, she came out and started to apologize saying this is tough for her and she just needs the trailer dropped off at her house saying it will take me 30 min. I said no again and the apology was out the window and more spew. The last she said was she is done with me but she didn't even finish the sentence as we are already separated.

I think I gave her too much info about not going in her house and waiting in my van to drop off and pick up the kids.

Its a boundary that I have stated now. She didn't like it, saying we cant have separate lives we have kids.

So this morning more texts from her about the dog, which she just gave to me to look after and about wall paper glue.

I felt sick to my stomach last night, like I blew up the chance for us to get back together, but in my head I knew it was the right thing to do.

THis trailer thing has been going on for weeks.

She wouldn't take no for an answer. To the point she thought she could just dictate to me that I was bringing it over, like it was nothing.