Don't sell yourself short Z. You have done so much and are a work in progress. Phenomenal progress in many ways.

Are you ready to tackle this fear? Are you ready to stand up and place the boundaries you need to place? Reread NG. It sings about this. I have found that sometimes I come across some info.I really get it and agree with it, but it is only much much later that it is right time to implement it. Sometimes we just aren't there yet but you know when you are.

Anyway sidetrack apart. You have already placed THE boundary so the others should be less fearful.

Have a good holiday and actually I am a larger guy, though have been meaning to retry the Guinness!


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together