I'm still confused on WHY you are seeking to get the house in your name right now. It's a lengthy process that isn't going to get you any closer to your goals. You can have a legal separation without taking her name off of the house. You can detach from her while living with her. You don't NEED to have a year of bachelorhood to figure out what you want for your future. These are choices that you've made for yourself that conflict with what you say you want for yourself.
I agree, telling her "do what you want" is still telling her what to do. Think about all of the advice you've read on your threads... no one tells you to do what you want, because we know that you will. We can only guide you in the best way we know how.
