Thank you Cadet. I appreciate the time you dedicated to my request.I am not spinning nor am I going anywhere soon. So do what you have to do and enjoy your weekend.You can get back to me afterwards if you come up with anything else.

Yes my W seems to be at menopause/perimenopause.Looking at how that can affect a woman was already on my to do list, but I have been concentrating more on me lately. I will look this up though.Thanks for highlighting it.

I will definitely check out those stages of development
I have come across briefly some aspects of development and was a logical addition to what I have been concentrating on.

I have a pretty clear idea of what I want my M to look like and what is acceptable or not. I am accepting much less for the moment. I am also not accepting certain behavior that unconsciously or consciously I let slip in the past.

Anyway. Thank you for this and for everything you do here. Enjoy your weekend


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together