Well. I talked to SIL about ExW. I fully understand that it is not following Sandis guild line or rules. No matter who I talked to about Ex never relieved the gut feeling of expressing myself to someone about her anger.
I also realized that what was stopping me from taking to her family is a fear of it getting back to her and "ruining" and R chances. Well. I am pretty much past the R idea. Sure I miss W like this last weekend. I do my fear her anger like I used to. And tho it still effects me. It doesn't send me spinning.
Anyway. I asked SIL if W has always been short fused and grudge holding and I missed it? And she said ya pretty much. Then SIL asked me if I was planning on taking the boys from W... My how quickly things get twisted. So I said lets talk instead of me typing this all out.
I gave SIL my stance on the custody of the boys. That I want 50-50 to stay yet w believes every other weekend would be better and is now mad that I questioned why she believes the boys should just live with her and now I am taking them away... It made me laugh how distorted stories get when people twist them to make me out to be a bad guy.
Well SIL saw through it and said honestly. The boys would be better with me. From what she has heard. w is acting like a teen still. Out drinking every weekend. Even when she has the boys and apparently driving after drinking with the boys. To the point that another SIL was tempted to call child services on W because of the stories W had been telling of her exploits.
If I need to fight with W for fair custody of my children I will. Not a doubt in my mind. And if a judge decides W is better. Then that's fair I won't appeal, I want what is best for my children no matter what that is.
As for this news of her putting my children in danger with her drinking. That I will be looking into as best I can to keep my children safe.
The person that you will spend the most time with in your life is yourself, so make yourself as interesting as possible.
