Yes Sandi, I have been reading that stuff over and over. I am learning to set boundaries. I am working on making a plan for myself as this stuff seems so simple when I read it and then I start to implement and it is so complicated. She has had several A's over the last 10 years, 3 that I know of. No disclosure on how long 2 of them lasted. I have never told her that I can be patient, nor have my actions or questions shown her that, however she still keeps looking for that from me. She seems to be slowly showing me regret and sorrow, I am cautious of course, says she is willing to work on the M and is seeking IC. This has all happened in the last 3 days. I have told her that I am not interested in an open relationship. I have now gone dark, doing my 180s, and detaching. It seems to be working but time will tell. I will need to see action soon. We are so uncomfortable around each other right now, which is good I guess.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
