I am not doing it to hurt her, more to get her attention and show I am serious since I have been so passive.

Remember she has planned a weekend getaway with this man and she does not know that I am onto her affair.

The list I was reading from Sandi2 said she should take a hit with a hard, maybe painful consequence of some kind.

This is my best chance to get her full attention, especially if she has to cancel plans and come home early.

One more thing to keep in mind, my WW was a very strong Christian at one time. This level of evil is something I have never seen in her before. It is like she is under a spell or something. I know that I must act out of love and genuine concern for her soul.

And mind you, if she wants to come back that is fine, but only if she accepts full responsibility for her actions, is remorseful and we mutually agree to forgive our pasts with no resentments. She will have to follow my accountability plan and seek christian marital counseling with me.

M-41
W-46
T- 17 years
M- 13 yrs
SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11
ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15
Status - DBing, GAL