Some days are better than others

[EDF]

WW continued the onslaught of interactions last night, both during our mutual martial arts classes and afterwards. Lots of short dialogues, mostly mundane, all cordial; me mostly just listening/validating. A couple things that came across as thoughtful, like her offering to get me aspirin when she got up to get herself some (heavy sparring at Martial arts last night), or mentioning she had gotten more turkey bacon for me.

Despite that, still no real changes in actions on her part or any actions to commit to reconciling. Trying not to interpret her words/actions and just detach, but feel I have to assume she is just trying to keep all her options open until I see consistent actions otherwise.

I told her this morning I would like to refinance the house to save money on payments, and would like to start gathering the info the bank needs tonight (I had been holding off on refi because we had been considering selling for some time, but I realized locking it in now at better interest rate will make it more practical for me to stay in the house if we split, so I can find a new place if desired at my convenience.) She said it sounded like a good idea.

Yesterday she said goodbye to me; this morning she said goodbye to the cats. Her mood all over the place.