What Should I be doing 3

[Coconut]

Sandi, your posts are never too long, I too read every word in your posts, in fact, some I wish were longer. You have a talent at clearly explaining what's going on, and you have been the source of many ah-ha moments for me and many others.

So last night I told W that I really spent time thinking about what she has done to start moving forward, that I appreciate the actions she has taken on her own to regain my trust, and follow though on the actions I have requested. I apologized that I allowed my insecurities to move me to make the request that she moved out of the MBR, and that my request was counter intuitive to what we were trying to work towards.

She really seemed to appreciate my owning up that it was a mistake to want that, and that I recognized her attempts to do things to regain my trust. She again went to bed with me to watch tv when I went to sleep, and even laid her head on my shoulder while I fell asleep. Crises averted.

What she's done to start making things right:
1. Texts me constantly with her location and goings on.
2. Texts me occasionally to just say hi, and she's thinking of me
3. When I walk in and she's on phone, she holds phone towards me so I can see what she's doing.
4. Doesn't guard phone, leaves it laying around
5. Doesn't comment negatively when she sees me going through her phone
6. Tells me when OM is at station, and reassures me she is not talking with him or working next to him.
7. Opens up about how she's feeling about how things are going, good and bad.
8. Has started discussing what would make her happy if I did.
9. Her small demonstrations of affection are sincere, I.e. when giving a hello or goodbye kiss, she holds her gaze for a second and doesn't just turn away righ away.
10. Reassures me that it's going to take awhile, but that she's trying and occasionally has a real draw to me, that her feelings for me are coming back, but in small bouts.