No worries. With the years you have spent on the forum plus your extracurricular studying/reading I value your insight. Also do you know of any of similar long duration limbo without a real BD or separation?

I'll get back to you about temporarily bringing back my first few threads. Thanks

You may need a few questions to clarify my situation as I have not mentioned W etc that much in recent months.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together