Myrrh --

My 2 cents...and it's based only on a "quickly scan as many threads as I can" approach of late..

STOP with the R talk and the questioning of h regarding the certainty of his decision.

What is h asking for right now? Space, time, distance, calm, quiet, no emotional outburst, what???

give it to him!

If you ask him if he's sure....
If you ask him what he thinks...
If you try to talk him out of it..

You are just forcing his hand...to defend his last known "position" a la -- I wanna D.

How can you get the focus back on YOU for YOU?

Sage

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.