Maybe someone else can articulate it better than me and i dont want to seem pro-D cause im not but you are trying to push her out the door.

I guess the question is if you looked inside yourself now. Whats is it thats stopping you? I dont think its the Zen reason you mentioned up there.

Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.