I have not been imagining things the past few days. There seems to be a thawing of her heart or at least the beginnings of such. I am mindfully cautious after spending so much time on this forums but i am playing it by ear.

My 180s have been going great. There are a few home improvement projects i would like to do but finances are limiting that.

Her transparency and No-contact with OM is going well bordering on super. If the proof wasn't before my very eyes i'd have a hard time believing it. I've also heard from OM's W that hes starting to spend more time with his own W and kids.

Maybe its the new job shes going to, i suspect W feels like its a fresh start cause it seems like we're making future plans, nothing major but that is a big 180 from her, in the early stages of BD and DB she would give me a look when i naively tried to make future plans.

I am starting to sleep. Yaay! Atleast i think i am. I feel its probably because im less anxious in part because its sunk in that i cant control her actions and will move forward either way and also because she has been very forthcoming, transparent and every time i had a suspicion over the past few weeks have been proven false.

Shes looking at me when we talk / interact. Another 180 from her.

The kisses on the cheek are becoming more frequent, warmer and more ummm lippy. Four weeks ago i couldnt even brush up against her without her jumping out the way. So that's also another 180 by her.

While i want to be optimistic i know these are still early days and it could turn around on me at any moment. Nothing else to do but keep on trucking.


Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.