One of hallmarks of a Nice Guy is their women pleasing, and their drifting away or uncomfortableness with male relationships.
Huh, this one surprised me. I too have felt much more comfortable talking to women, though I have never ever grown a close connection to any woman while I was M, or done anything that should even made her concerned.
To clarify, what I meant by women pleasing is their female partner. I personally don't have a problem with male friendships. I get along and like hanging out with men quite a bit. But supposedly, many Nice Guys do feel uncomfortable.
I also didn't have any inappropriate relationships with women during my M, but, what I did do is fail to seek out spending time with male friends, because I felt I should devote all my energy (outside of the kids) to spending time with my wife, and forgoing my friendships. There's the codependent behavior. There's the paradoxical behavior where I believed I was doing right by my wife, but in fact I was putting too much pressure on her instead of taking responsibility for my own happyness.
