Im going to sum it up, you dont want the M, you dont want her, she is blatantly cheating on you. So why havent you pursued the D?

Are you done or are you hanging on to the M?

Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.