Yes, I think reading R can be really helpful - his needs her needs, 5 Love languages etc.

However, they are more of an investment for the future - and I feel I learned a lot from them for a future R.

As for now - crisis mode and trying to save the M. I would say sticking with DBing is the best way - keep it simple....

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus