Thanks for the replies everyone. I do need to reiterate that I think the OM in the other city (same state) is the motive but IDK for sure; however, she mentioned it once so I doubt she's forgotten about it and it makes some sense out of her nonsense. I also don't know if she wants to take the kids there or just go herself on her proposed 2 weeks off. But she did bring up travel and I told her I would be willing to be flexible if she was taking a vacation so something is up. I'm no dummy, I know where she's been going when I have the kids.
Hawho, thank you for everything, but especially telling me to slow down. I had myself worked up over the last couple days and needed to take a step back to breathe and think.
I've only been communicating about this sort of thing by email or text so it is all in writing. I also forwarded everything to my attorney this morning. She agrees it is ridiculous but said it would be something to talk to the guardian attorney about. And it just so happens I got paperwork from her to get started. I called this morning to see if there was anything I needed to do besides bring her my retainer. She wants a list of references so I made a few calls today and am going to stop in with my retainer tomorrow. I didn't want to list references without letting asking/letting people know first. Can I list everyone here? LOL.
I emailed w this afternoon and told her I researched and every other week is not unreasonable and that 2 weeks is a long time for a kid not to see a parent and that I would be willing to be flexible (and hopefully vice versa)if she wants to take a vacation, or for events on off weeks, etc.; things a logical, thoughtful parent would think and say and asked her again to do every other week. If she doesn't I will speak with the other attorney.
Cali, thank you for the advice about not being a doormat and how it doesn't mean I have to stop DBing. I sometimes forget not to get sucked up into her crazy MLC tornado and let it get me a little crazy myself.
LT, I did check with the principal and w did enroll them for next year, but I won't let it get my guard down. There's no knowing what they're thinking and something is definitely up with the 2 week thing.
I talked to step MIL (adopted MIL rather) today and it was nice. I always feel better after talking to her. She invited me and the kids up too so I am going to try to make a trip sometime this summer when things settle down. I thought maybe w had spoke with her (I was actually hoping so) but she hasn't since Christmas. Par for the MLCer abandoning those close to them, she would have always been her go to.
Oh, and remember the toll bill I mentioned a while back? the one I wasn't going to give her because I didn't think she would remember to pay it. I got a letter today from collections, I literally LOL'd after I opened it and saw what it was. At least this bill was peanuts. Unfortunately, it is more reassurance my instincts are not off.
