I get to pick up stuff from the house next week, finally. Was supposed to happen within 2 weeks of mediation, will be one day short of 4 weeks when I actually get to go. But at least it is happening.
D9 supposedly said an insult to the daughter of one of W's new loser friends. The whole group of friends now wants nothing to do with W or D9. D9 said the other girl lied, she lies all the time. I told D9 to not feel bad, the problem worked itself out. If this other girl lies all the time, it's probably better that D9 isn't around her.
It is also amazing how immature the friends are about how they chose to deal with it. Well, that's how those kind of people are I guess.
I also told my kids that W deserves to have some better friends, and I hope she finds them.
This has pros and cons.. Pros: - W will no longer be bringing my kids around these losers - W no longer has any friends, severely limiting her GAL efforts, and hopefully cut down on her spending. - Hopefully this eliminate some of the enablers. - Hopefully this will help her hit rock bottom faster so she can start working on her own issues. - W was looking at houses in MY hometown. THe kids say she is now looking at houses in neighboring towns, closer to W's hometown. That would be good, as then I won't have to hear about her actions as much.
Downside: - I don't have joint legal custody yet, she could enroll the kids in a different school and there's nothing I can do about it. That would suck for me, and the kids. Hopefully W is smarter than that, but so far she hasn't impressed me with her decisions. - The fight might not last and she'll return to previous activities. And then all I can do is hope it is just a matter of time that another fight happens.
Another example happened that was a total common sense thing, my mom had to figure out a detail of me picking up stuff from the house that W should have easily, very easily, figured out. I was floored that W didn't figure it out in fact.
She clearly has the IQ of a gnat, way worse than when we were together.
I wish there were ways I could help her hit rock bottom a little faster. Not because I want her to suffer, quite the opposite, because I want her to learn to become a better person. It would certainly help the kids out either way, and maybe turn her back my direction?
