I thought you had left the board. Glad you decided to come back. Have you read everything in Cadet's first post?
Your WW has no worries about losing you. I don't think she worries about losing anything. You do not have to make it your mission to figure out what loss she must experience. What you need to do is set boundaries. If she dishonors your boundary, then you do some type of action that gives her the message that she crossed the line and that you will not tolerate it.
Do you have boundaries? Are you willing to compromise your values, integrity, spiritual beliefs, etc., just to stay under the same roof with her? Where do you draw the line?
Never tell a Wayward wife that you can be patient and wait for her to be open and truthful about her activities. Maybe you've learned not to take that route.
She is the unfaithful spouse. She has cheated for maybe ten years, that you know. If this has been the same man all these years.....it is going to take you being extra strong and applying tough love. She has gotten away doing anything she wants and not having to be accountable. What will be different this time, Coffee? It all depends on you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
