I remember many a night I could not stand being in bed with my W. Everysingle time it was due to my thoughts at the time. Yes it is mucheeasier to say feck off and come back when fully there.

But Michele does advise to ask if doing this brings you closer or further from your goal?

When I was depressed I hated being in bed with myw I was full of resentment for our situation. We barely spoke and both kept our distance.HHorrible situation.Today I appreciate the little contact o have ans am comforted by her being beside me. It is all down to a change in my thinking. It is definitely not accepting this as as good as it gets.

Best wishes


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together