For the WAS - facing the friends and family of the one they walked away from/betrayed is one of the hardest things.
I won't post on FB or write an apology. I've been reading way too many conflicting ideas and will just work on myself via the 180, keep to STHT, empathy and toffee eyes. I think what is really getting me panicky is knowing she is meeting OM for an overnighter this weekend, and feeling powerless to stop it. I know deep down the affair has to flounder on its own, or they will always wonder. It just hurts BAD to be betrayed while still M.
W took day off to meet with a lawyer for free advice on our finanaces. We are both poor and the plan has been to D without lawyers. She took S16 for his drivers license and let me know she was looking in to a possible refinance where I got to keep the house sans her name. I was thinking last night I'm more okay losing her than the house my two youngest sons live in. We've only been there 5 mos. but the efforts she put in to get it was Herculean. I have my 2nd counseling meeting tonight and feel more prepared for my next cornering by her.
Thanks for the advice all!
M49 W48 Married 25 years S14 & S16 in house. S21 & S23 together in apt.
BD#1 11/09 EA & PA, Separated 2/10, Reconciled 9/10 BD#2 4/16 EA & PA, Separated 4/16
