Sandi, but how does Coconut know that it's not temp-checking? This is all so confusing. He's trying to protect his broken heart and is just doing what comes naturally, pushing the hurt away - his W.
DDJ, I believe that my W has committed herself to trying to move forward with just her and I, and not having more contact with OM than what is absolutely necessary. So Sandi is saying that if that is what I want, why am I pushing her away when she is giving it to me...
My issues are mine, I need to detach, but I need to do that without actually pushing her away and making her feel like she doesn't have my support. MY ISSUE, I need to sole it without affecting her negatively. If she was still pursuing the A, Sandi would not have given that advise.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
