Quote: I just felt like he was constantly dropping comments about how "you should take this to your apt" and talking about my future with other people - then he gets upset when the comments evoke a response in me.
maybe because he is
Quote: He admited to me last night that he just can't deal with me upset. He said he is very happy at home, except when "this" (meaning me getting upset) happens...
He doesnt like you upset. He's testing the reality and validity of your changes. If you "go for it" it proves him right. If you detach and let it slide, you prove you're changing for the better.
Forget the going dark - bring Bob out for a little visit. Be consistent. If he makes a stupid comment about "bring this to your place" - pretend he is a 90 year old senile guy from Kansas - humor him as BOB BARKER would.
Hang in there.
Bill.
"you are who you chose to be" - Iron Giant
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