I am so glad to hear you've started finding peace in this WAW-induced roller coaster. What a shame your WAW took a milestone for your D17 and turned it into a pity-fest for herself. I actually feel quite angry on behalf of your daughter, but she handled it with dignity and grace.
Keep on keepin' on, SadHub, it sounds like you are doing a fantastic job of working on being the best father and man you can be.
M 10yrs T 13yrs BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce April '17-Letting go 2018 D busted DD8, DS6, DS3