Coconut,
Sandi couldn't be more right. I hope you read my response to you about my situation the first time around. I was just like you.
I wanted to "seal the deal" as fast as possible
It was so hard to have that patience and realize that it was going to take some time.
It was so awkward the first few times. I promise it will get better though. But you cant force it or the timing
To me your W definitely opened up and was ready to start "fixing" the damage, but that is going to take time
Something I use to always write during my first stint here patience patience patience!!!


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it