I really feel for you. My W moved out on Saturday - check out my new thread if you want to. I had a few sessions with a DB coach and it was helpful. For me it was important step, since I had invested so much time into the DB book at that point. You may want to see if there is $ support somewhere. Perhaps your church has a fund for "special things". Perhaps there are others in your area who can offer similar services. I recently started working with a life/business coach - who surprisingly had lots of good insight into my MR issues. He was also able to help me make my GAL action orientated so it fit with my career and other goals. My coach is less expensive than the DB coach. As I said, I got lots of value from my DB coach.
Perhaps look around and see if there are alternatives that might help. Even if you got one or two small nuggets of info from them it could be a game changer.
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017