hi myrrh - just got caught up on your sitch, so bear with me as i repeat some things you may have heard before you are amazingly centred for someone your age - i only say this as i recall what i was like at 23 - oh my gosh - the overdraft was the only thing i was obsessing about (so was my H - joint problem solving has been our glue until recently ) from your posts, my money is on your H being confused, guilty, and postponing making decisions. time is always on the side of the R when at least one partner is dbing, which you are doing a terrific job of the crazymaking will continue, be prepared for it. detach, and watch yourself go through the motions - i'm finding it gets easier to recognise the early warnings, pull out the stop sign, and go for a run till my legs hurt so much i cannot think or feel anymore; i'm fitter now than i was at 30 oh yes, keep journaling and posting, the safety valve is critical. and don't just lurk on my thread, ok? i really appreciate your feedback. lots of hugs, slowly
you are amazingly centred for someone your age - i only say this as i recall what i was like at 23 - oh my gosh - the overdraft was the only thing i was obsessing about (so was my H - joint problem solving has been our glue until recently 
)
the crazymaking will continue, be prepared for it. detach, and watch yourself go through the motions - i'm finding it gets easier to recognise the early warnings, pull out the stop sign, and go for a run till my legs hurt so much i cannot think or feel anymore; i'm fitter now than i was at 30 
