My mother used to tell my WW that she must study and improve herself. My WW would reply, no, DDJ is studying so he'll look after me. I don't need to study.
I think that the material things and holidays are part of a sense of entitlement that they've always had, they want to achieve things, without doing the hard work. Nice guys will give them the world - literally!
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
