That is the one thing that gives me pause in all this. If she wants the divorce so bad, why isn't she getting the papers ready and throwing them at me? It is only a couple hundred dollars to have them prepared.
One other piece of advice: Stop trying to figure her out. It'll drive you crazy and just keep you stuck.
She wants the divorce - she does ALL the work.
She doesn't have the papers prepared - you don't have to do anything.
She has the papers prepared - you review with your lawyer.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
