Oops. I just posted this to your old thread, but I'm reposting it here now. I was typing away on it while you were doing your new thread stuff.

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And here you are, SH, being awesome! Yup, it's kind of disturbing that we know the forum rules so well these days, isn't it? Get thee to a new thread(ery)!

Can I just tell you that the acrobats and bearded ladies comment was hilarious?!? It truly is the only way to look at your W because how else can one deal with such baffling behavior? To cause a scene at your D17's graduation? All I can say is wow - your daughter has some serious clarity to be able to see through all that nonsense and recognize the selfishness underneath. Luckily she has one parent who is actually an adult. I bet you were wearing your SuperHero cape!

SH, I don't think you should shy away from journaling here just because you aren't quite sure of how you are feeling. Maybe by writing a bit more about your feelings and emotions you might be able to sort through your thoughts. I know that just typing here helps me figure things out sometimes. Just tonight I learned something about myself while I was tapping away at the keyboard.

Journaling doesn't have to just be about the daily goings-on. You can also share some of what you are learning along the way, too. That's why I started posting about my grief counseling work. I thought that perhaps it might be of some use for someone else, and that was the very same post that seemed to resonate with you. You said it brought you peace for the first time that particular day, and that helped me, too, knowing that the process I was going through could provide some comfort to you.

I am very happy to hear that you have gained back some of the LBS diet weight! That's really, really good. And sleeping without help and not needing anxiety meds, too! You are doing incredibly well. I am so glad to hear it. Roll with every single good day you have, SH. You may not have seen the end of the difficulties, but I have a feeling those days are numbered.

Good night, SH.

(((SuperHero)))


H: 44, Me: 45
Married: 20 y Together: 25 y
no kids
Walk away: 12/15
Asked for temp separation 12/25/15
PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had)
H filed for D 5/16