Chapter 2, She moved out - I win! I think

[bigybiz]

Well on Saturday she moved out. She is renting a room with a friend down the street.

After she told me that I created this situation and the only way she can think of resolving it is for her to leave. Yes, I miss her, yes I wish she would come back - but on the other hand what a selfish person. She says she loves her kids, it's so hard for her to walk away from everything in her life. Literally leaving with the clothes on her back and a van full of misc stuff. But, really you turn your back and go.

Well I think I'm the winner. I have the house, my three kids, I wake up in my own bed, I have the similar routines as before - but she is gone. She has told me she is moving on.

I guess I need to figure out what's next for me.

I would like her back and would like her to be my wife. But, if she's not coming back - I think I'm kinda set up. My kids are not sure what to think, they know I want her back and did not want her to go. They see me busting my butt with work, running the house, etc.

So time to put Chapter 2 in place,

As my long time listeners know, I think I'm doing pretty good on the GAL. That will continue. I keep knocking off the house projects, my fitness is off the charts, I've got a motorcycle, my hair is growing and I had it chemically relaxed. So I look a little different.

Now its just a point of keeping the house running and setting it up the way I want it.

I know for sure, without her here my pursuing will not be an issue.

So what's next people? My GAL is good, We don't do any text messages, emails, etc. Without her here I'm sure Going dark will be easier as there won't be awkward mealtimes etc.

I'm thinking of stop posting the activities the kids and I do on facebook. Right now I've been posting lots thinking it shoes everyone else that I'm still having a good time without her.

Is that the right strategy??

Need some more thoughts on going dark like this: I think I'll take down the "family" calendar which has important dates in it. Maybe I'll just manage it myself. Maybe she will set up a google calendar to assist. But keep her guessing.

Here is the real problem. I know my 180/LRT was having an impact on her. If I keep making changes to the house and how the kids and I do things - will this alienate her or make her want to be part of our lives again?