Job, thank you for bringing up the do's and don'ts thread. I needed to read that today! Trying to stay positive and keep my head.
Sorry in advance, I feel stupid talking about my texts/emails like this but I am anyway, just typing it helps.
Tonight she texted me and said she just saw my text from this morning and she didn't know what I was talking about with the sitter. I reread my emails to make sure I'm not crazy (well rereading above obviously I am) and I just replied why I thought that (vaguely) and then said there was miscommunication. Her next couple of texts were then friendly.
She also emailed (IDK why we can't stick to one form of communication)about our schedule, telling me how every other week was too hard on the kids. She suggested we alternate having them 2 weeks at a time over the summer and that she talked to them and that's what they want (oh my) and that she didn't want to spend all her time traveling (IDK where she's planning on going, and that often since I said I was more than willing to be flexible for that sort of thing).
Is every other week really unreasonable or hard on them? I would think 2 weeks would be harder, plus what kind of parent wouldn't want see their kid for 2 weeks at a time!? Our current schedule tears me up. She's dead set on it. I haven't replied yet.
I'm trying not to give OM sitch any of my energy but I think maybe she wants the time to go there because he is 7 hours away(she thinks they are going to take over the state with their business, ugh...it's like a teenager believing the spiel of a scumbag, sad and disgusting). She also knows this schedule could potentially give me trouble at work which would give her leverage in custody. All this worries me because of her wanting to move there to work with him. I don't even want to think of this or her taking the kids there but I think I'm stupid if I don't. She claims it's all about the kids but I know who she's looking out for first. She also said she doesn't need any sitter/daycare for her 2 weeks so I guess she's only going to work every other 2 weeks!?
I don't want to quit DBing but I need to look out for my kids first and foremost. Still planning on keeping up with the kindness but wow, it's sure hard sometimes. Is every other week really hard on kids? I haven't found anything on it searching and I think it is her lawyer's input. IDT it is but I'm questioning myself since I'm feeling like I'm losing it. Should I just agree to the 2 weeks? I don't want to fight a battle I can't win with her but I have legitimate concerns as I mentioned above. I'm afraid if I try to stick to every other week she will turn nasty and try to take my time away, then I'll be waiting on the mercy of the court. It's how her family operates and how she's turned.
