In the expression above I meant my w as the horse reluctant to talk.

I will also clarify that I Snooped for the first time: n ages because I was down. And not vice versa.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together