Checking in from the T's waiting room. I haven't cried in 4 hours. New personal best in the last 5 days.

I went to work to do a phone conference training, so that was distracting. Then grocery shopping and I managed to not break down there.

A thought hit me. WH said he originally planned to wait 6 months before getting into a new R or have OW move up (yeah, right) but that OW had to move up there sooner because she was broke. Supposedly, she retired early because it was such a horrific job, then lived off her retirement which is now almost gone, and has only a small pension to cover her credit card payment and car payment. She has not enough to live off after, it sounds like! She lived rent-free in her parent's house (a trust) because she had a bankruptcy.

So - this brings me to WH's savior complex! He did the same thing with me - but he thought I needed saving more than I did. I was a single mom, but managed well on my own. He was very proud over what he offered me.

Something here about getting a woman he feels he can save to come keep house for him in a dependency dynamics? Not wanting an equal?

M 16 yrs, WH62, P54
3 adult blended kids
EA 11/13, BD1 6/14
PA fall 14, BD2 2/15
Piecing 2015, BD3 12/15
Separated 4/16
WH moved OW in 5/16
Divorced 6/15/17