Sorry I haven't been active in posting but I have been following your sitch. It really [censored]. I feel for you. But here comes a 2x4. He's checked out of your M. He's gone. If he wants to move back in, its only because it will make his life easier. Why on earth would he be talking about dating if he was REALLY wanting to work on your M. At this point, I think your best bet is giving him the boot. By doing so, you will show him you will not be treated this way. You are worth more than this. You said that you "lost yourself." Well, you need to find yourself again. That's hard work but that's what you need to do. If you are successful, you will be much better off in both possible outcomes: he comes back or he doesn't. Either way, you've got to take care of yourself. My advice to you would be to mentally divorce him and begin moving on with your life. Find out just how awesome you can become! When he gets his $hit together, he'll realize what he's lost and come crawling back to you.
Me: 48 y/o W: 47 y/o Together: > 20 yrs BD: Dec '15, then S 2nd BD: Mar '16, then I filed for D April '16: started piecing
