the first things out of her mouth were: 1) contact an in-state attorney, or two or three, and retain the one I like best for $1500 or under. 2) go home, and tell W tough luck. 3) take all the money out of the bank, put it in a safety deposit box under a family member's name. 4) change my permanent address to a PO BOX since W gets home from work before me. 5) Check state divorce laws on pre-marital property being sold to a family member, if it makes sense, sell house to father/brother for $1. 6) Open new bank under only my name, change direct deposit to that, withdrawal everything and keep in cash except for what's needed for electronic bill pay. and umm. some other stuff related to that. I'd hvae to get notes out. But she immediately saw patterns in my W that seem saw it necessary to protect myself and assets immediately.
