The fact that he even told you that she is waking up at 4:30 am to make him lunch is disgusting.
Why would anyone say that to someone that is hurting because they betrayed them????? It's really sick and unnecessarily cruel. He is trying to hurt you but in a really manipulative way.
look at this as an outsider.
Also don't make any decisions about divorce process yet until you are more detached. I'm going to play Devils advocate here. Every action has consequences. your husbands actions were deplorable. He was a serial cheater, so why shouldn't he have to accept those consequences regarding your home ownership and marital stake? Why continue to enable his bad behavior. Let him learn consequences like the rest of the world. You embraced his family and You sacrificed your career to take care of his family!!!
I understand not exploiting the legal system but I don't think you would be. I don't think that giving up something that was yours is being the bigger person. It's not like you ordered a order of protection against him and abandoned him and cheated and are taking the kids away. He broke his commitment and contract and you know what? There are consequences when people do that.
I think it's great that your in a state where there is a deterrent for your husbands behavior.
