Doing some major processing today re: my attitude toward the stuff Dustin does that irritates me and creates resentment.
My boss (who can be helpful at times) gave me a more detailed diagnostic criteria in question format for ADD. WOW! It was like someone sat down and made a nearly complete list of everything about Dustin that drives me crazy and inflates my resentment...

My God, folks, what if he can't help some of this stuff that drives me nuts? He has really worked hard at being more honest with me, and while our M is by no means a sure thing right now, he is still working hard at being loving and supportive.

When he says "I can't be what you need me to be" maybe he is freaking right! Maybe my demands, which to me are completely resonable, are sometimes overwhelming and frightening to him...no matter what happens with our M (as a very wise lady e-mailed me a couple days ago) I will always have H in my life, so it would help me if I could learn a different way to see my H.

The way I see it, DBing is at least 50% attitude, and 50% action...the one feeds the other. So today I guess I am working on my attitude.
Hugs to all,
Myrrh

One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.