GB - Worrying about the future can be overwhelming and I understand what you mean about guys with options. perhaps the best strategy is not to overthink things with relationships. Be open to meeting people as friends and experiencing relationships without focusing on sex or dating. If you can be open to getting to know someone then you can worry about all that other stuff.

Yes to find someone you will have to put yourself out there but you also have to focus on creating a life for yourself. If you can be at peace with yourself then you'll be much more likely to attract the guy who is worthy of you.

Also I am not trying to be negative but statistically many women don't remarry for a myriad of reasons. I want to live my life in a hopeful way but in the end the most important relationship is the one I have with myself.

You are amazing and strong and beautiful. Life is a cha cha not a sprint to the finish. Hang in there.

M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters
BD: 5/14
Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW
D Final 9/17

“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”
― Maya Angelou