What Should I be doing 3

[Coconut]

Sandi, if your around I have a question, if your not around I hope everything is ok. I read most of your sitch, everything I could find anyway, and I think my W see's me as u did your H... Like a brother, or good friend.. I didn't find anything regarding your first time being able to feel romantic with him, and I'm wondering what happened to be able for you to stop seeing him as a brother to as a lover?

My wife isn't quite as far away as you were. I occasionally get hugs and pop kisses hello and goodbye, and even a cuddle once, but she doesn't have any sexual feelings towards me... I'm ok with waiting, and I'm working on making myself more attractive, mysterious, etc... But I know in your case it was all you, so what were you able to do to make yourself attracted to him again?