I felt like that too, Nate. Time...every second was excruciating (especially early on).

Thing is, time passing is one of the things that helps shift your perspective towards something else. There are other things you need to do to make this shift (GAL, working on yourself...all those things), but it all takes time.

Taking time to decide how you want to react, taking time to post here, ask questions, get answers, process the information...none of that is wasted time. You're learning things, so that is never wasted time.

It is in that space that change starts to happen. You're giving yourself that time and space. You're giving yourself that gift. That's what makes you an adult.

Get where I'm coming from?


Me: 48, XH: 42
T: 18 years, M: 15 years

EA/PA 1: 6/2012
EA/PA 2: from autumn 2012-present

BD: 5/2013
ILYBNILWY BD & left: 10/2015

OW conceived: 8/2016
Born: 4/2017

H filed: 7/2017
D final: 28/12/2017