I realized it's a standing your ground thing for some people
But to me every situation is different
Would it be "more of the same" behavior? That's what you need to ask yourself
Not post BD but before that

I'm in the guest bedroom now and was told by many to "man up" and get back into the MBR. But for me that would come accords as more of the same. My controlling ways, etc
So DB coach suggested based on my situation to stay where I'm at


M 37 W 30
S 7
Together 10 years
Married 9 years
BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day)
I moved to apartment 1/11/13
W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13
Peicing: 6/3/13
Reconciled: 7/2013
BD2: 4/20/16
still working on it