Okay - just to clarify, the first time when Dustin moved out, not a lot changed for me - he just didn't sleep here. No furniture was moved, there was no set in stone visitation with S, we didn't have to divide stuff up. So I am going through some of this crap for the first time. That's why it is so painful for me right now. Like H said, I didn't necessarily HAVE to leave, but I just felt like i needed to make a change here - leaving instead of being left, changing my life before it was changed for me.
I will survive this - maybe I will even let go of my dreams of the two=parent family and a house in suburbia where the biggest problem is crabgrass on the lawn and making sure S doesn't kill himself on his first minibike. Someday, Myrrh
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life.