I hope that you are well, and it's definitely nice to see that the WAS does come back. I skimmed through your posts, and in one of the them I noticed you mentioned how when your H first brought up D, you had a gut feeling that you knew it was a mistake. I just wanted your advice on how you fought that gut feeling. My H and I have had so many ups and downs, and there were times where he acted happy and like he wanted to be with me, and there were other times where he just said he wanted out. Of course I did things incorrectly and convinced him to stay (which he now says was me forcing him to stay)..but in his heart I honestly feel like he knew it wasn't right, which is why he decided to stay. So we separated once last year, got back together a bit too quickly, and then separated again in November 2015. After we separated in November, we started MC, and things were going really well, then despite our progress, in April he said he wanted to go through with a D. He had an EA for most of last year, and I'm not 100% sure the OW is out of the picture. So he gave me paperwork about a week ago, and I went ahead and signed and gave them back to him. As far as I know, he has not officially filed them with the court. So this whole time, even after finding out about the EA, I kept fighting to save my marriage, and the reason I did so was because of the gut feeling you're familiar with. I know my H is suffering emotionally, but I don't think D is the solution to our problems. I honestly feel like if he ever got into a serious relationship again, it would end the same way our marriage ended. So I've been worried this gut feeling I've been having is refusal of me accepting the fact that I am getting D, and I'm afraid my gut feeling gives me false hope, which at the end of the day, just causes more depression for me.
Sorry this post became lengthy, I was trying to keep it short. But if you have any advice you can share with me on this, I would truly appreciate it. Hope your marriage continues to improve.
-Ahmeds
_________________ Me: 29 H: 30 M: 4 years EA Confirmed: 1/2015 (Unsure if EA is over because they were on and off last year) Separated: 11/2015 D Paperwork Signed: 5/2016
