This morning she asked for my help when d7 wasn't listening to her and I said what are you going to do when your alone? She quipped back that I don't help now really anyway...I think she is in for a big wakeup call when she moves out and sees how much I really do for this family.
poschan, while you have a valid point, I caution you in replying in this manner. It does not serve a purpose and you will not convince WAW of this. Also, hopefully this was not said in front of d7. It is important to be the stable and understanding parent for d7. Trust me on this. My d5 acts out for her mother regularly since the BD. She knows that her mother is not in a good place. On the other hand, d5 is an angel when with me. She knows where the stability is, so work hard to create that for her no matter what.
Originally Posted By: poschan
She also asked if d7 could be with her the first week in her new place to "acclimate". I thought it was a bad idea since she would be dealing with losing a parent (me) and in a new home rather than just losing a parent (WAW) if she were to stay with me the first week. The poor kids. I fell so bad for all of them that have to deal with selfish parents.
I encourage that you do not permit the request. It is important that you set a boundary to have a co parenting plan in place for equal time right from the start. D7 needs to acclimate to the time between both of you not to the new place with WAW. Stay firm on this. It also matters in d proceedings when it comes to time with the parents. My L was awesome in pounding this point home with me and providing a great parenting plan for me.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
