She's thinking of leaving again 4

[Sotto]

Hi Scrant, I haven't stopped by for a little while and sorry you're having a rough phase. I've just been posting about Shawn Achor and the happiness advantage on another thread. If you haven't seen his TED talk it's well worth a look.

Now what concerns me about your post above is the way you seem to feel your own happiness is linked to what your W can offer you. And of course, while she's cohabiting with her AP, she's going to offer you very little. So, what she isn't giving you, you need to give yourself (all apart from intimacy with other women if you hope to save your M.)

So, she isn't meeting needs you have - social needs, company and so on. I know from you posting before that you've gained a lot from GAL before. What's happening with it now my friend? Are you continuing to push forward there? There's a reason GAL is pushed so much on the forum - and that is because....it really does help!

So - personal challenge for you - a new regular GAL activity identified by the end of this month to start in June....are you up for it? I started salsa dancing recently and I love it! It's hard to feel sad when you're dancing.

All the feelings you're having are linked to your focus being on her. That's a cheeseless tunnel for you.....luckily there are many good places to find cheese. You just have to go a lookin' xx