Hi TK, AA sounds like a good plan. None of us gets to decide what our spouses ultimately do, but the R with your kids will continue and sobriety will help you be the best Dad possible to them.
I agree on the Shawn Achor talk - and trying out his happiness plan for a couple of weeks would be a great idea. I had a low day recently and I set aside an hour and did his 5 'happiness' activities - thankful for 3 things, journal about something nice, get out for exercise, meditate and do a random act of kindness. It turned me right around that day.
Keep on posting and moving forward my friend - you can do this xx
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus