BTW I do not think telling her to leave will push her further away. She has threatened to do so at least twice (One time she had a bag of clothes and sat in the car until I folded and said she did not have to go) and the other time she was upset (would not tell me why) and said she needed to think because I was kicking her out, she was unhappy and blamed me for it. I crumbled again and said she can stay.

So I have not shown her that I have the guts to go through with it and she is fine with that. Also, we had a talk one time about how I was holding on and she said ,"I wouldn't put up with it if that was me. I don't why you do it (she meant give up on the marriage). I said, " I guess you and I are just 2 different people."

So you see, over and over I have played the doormat and over and over she is almost begging me to man up to her.

M-41
W-46
T- 17 years
M- 13 yrs
SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11
ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15
Status - DBing, GAL